如何去爱一个人？

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爱一个人，让他走进你的世界，走进你的心里，究竟意味着什么？他是否会成为你生命的重心？他是否会主宰你的一切情绪？那自己呢？又将放在哪里，心里还有自己的位置吗？让一个人从此介入你的生命，分享你的喜悦与哀愁，分担你的痛苦与责任，这份拥有会让我失去什么呢？有得必有失，不是吗？在得到那可贵的真情后，我会为此付出什么？仅是一颗心吗？……太多的疑问了，太多的不确定了。你知道我的固执与倔强，我不会为任何人而改变，即使那是我深爱的人；我渴望的是他的认同与欣赏，关怀与宠爱，而不是管教与束缚，虽然也许那是好意，但对我而言，那是一个枷锁，会让我想逃的；真的，我会逃的，也许是太自私，太自我了，不想改变，不想找不到自己。爱一个人，真的要为他改变，或改变他吗？如果是这样，那爱的是哪一个呢，以前的还是后来的？无论爱的是谁，不都无法解释吗？为什么会爱他？因为他身上那些在你眼里与众不同的特质，不是吗？那么为什么要去改变？也许会有一些缺点？那又如何呢？人无完人。爱他，就一定要让他成为完美吗？爱一个人，不应该去苛求他，不应该去束缚他。走进他的世界，陪他一起去疯狂、一起去追梦、一起去心痛、一起去体验生活的每一个感觉、每一种滋味。
Loving one person, you let him walk into your world, even your heart. What on earth does it mean? Is it true that he‘ll become the focus of your life and dominate all of your emotion? What about yourself? Where do you want to put it? Is there any space for it in your heart? When one person gets involved in your life, shares your joys and sorrows, and partakes your pain and responsibility, what will you lose? One cannot make an omelet without breaking eggs,isn‘t it true? What must I pay for a precious true feeling? Just one heart? ...Too many questions and too many uncertainties. You know I am obstinate and unbending, and I won‘t change myself for anybody, even if he is my most cherished love. What I long for is his identification, appreciation, consideration and favor, but not his descipline or constraint. Although there is kindness in his descipline or constraint, but it will be a shackle for me and I want to escape from it. Really, I will escape! Perhaps I am too selfish and egoistic, and I don‘t want to change or lose my self. Loving one person, is it true that you must change for him or change him? If it is true, which one do you love, the one before the change or the one after the change? No matter which one you choose, your love is just as inexplicable. Why do you love him? You love him because of his distinguished characters in your eyes, don‘t you? Then why do you want to change him? Maybe he has some faults, what does it matter? No one is perfect. Why must you make him perfect if you love him? If you love him, you should not ask too much of him or constrain him, on the contray, you should walk into his world, go crazy with him, seek dream with him, share heartache with him, and experience every feeling and taste of life with him!